There’s a moment many men can recall, the day they found out about the pregnancy. In that instant, everything changed. Some wanted to step up but didn’t know how. Others froze, afraid, unprepared, or pressured. And for some, abortion became the decision that seemed to solve the problem, but it only created a deeper wound.
We don’t talk enough about the weight men carry after abortion. The guilt. The silence. The confusion over your role. Because when abortion happens, it’s not just a child that’s lost it’s the man’s sense of responsibility, too. Something was stripped from you that God designed to be sacred.
In Ephesians 5:25, Paul says, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” That’s sacrificial leadership; love that protects, covers, and gives. When abortion entered your story, it disrupted that calling. It whispered the lie that you failed, that you can never be trusted again to lead or love like that.
But God doesn’t leave us in failure. Psalm 51 reminds us of, David, a man who failed in a devastating way, who arranged the death of a man to cover his own sin. Yet when he repented, he prayed, “Restore to me the joy of Your salvation, and uphold me with a willing spirit.” (Psalm 51:12)
Restoration doesn’t erase what happened. It rebuilds what’s broken.
Maybe you can’t go back and change the past, but you can start living differently now. You can begin to take responsibility in ways that honor God; with your honesty, your integrity, and your willingness to lead again. You can be the man who stands for life, truth, and grace.
And here’s the hope: Jesus carried the full weight of your failure. You don’t have to carry it alone anymore. When you let Him restore you, He also gives you back what sin and shame tried to steal namely your purpose to protect, to provide, and to love like He does.