There’s something built into a man that wants to protect and provide. It’s not just instinct, it’s identity. God placed that in us from the beginning. In Genesis 2:15, we read, “The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and keep it.” Adam’s first calling wasn’t to conquer or consume it was to cultivate and care. He was given responsibility.
But abortion takes that away. Maybe you didn’t even have a say in the decision. Maybe you went along quietly because you didn’t know what else to do. Maybe you thought it was the “responsible” thing at the time. But afterward, something in you broke. The ability to provide, to step into your God-given role was cut off, and a silent ache took its place.
Men don’t always have words for that kind of loss. It can look like anger, detachment, overworking, or shutting down emotionally. You might have told yourself, “It’s over. I can’t change it.” But deep inside, you feel the weight of what was taken.
The truth is, God still calls you to responsibility. The call to all mankind starts with confession and repentance. 1 Peter 5:10 says, “After you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to His eternal glory in Christ, will Himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.” That’s His promise to restore what was lost to abortion. The ability to provide doesn’t have to stay buried under regret. It can be redeemed.
Provision isn’t only about money or material things. It’s about presence. It’s about showing up before God, for others, and in truth. Maybe the child you lost isn’t here for you to father, but there are people God is calling you to cover and care for now. It starts with honesty before Him: “Lord, I failed to protect. But I want to walk in what You created me for again.”
If that’s your prayer, know you are not disqualified. You’re being rebuilt. Your past doesn’t erase your design. You were made to be a man of responsibility, and through Christ, you can walk in it again, this time with humility, grace, and healing.